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How to Have a Good First Date

January 16th, 2010 · First Date

Did you finally ask that girl you have been eyeing out on a date? If so, are you ready for the big night? Whether you are nervous or excited, please continue reading on for a few helpful planning tips. These tips, when followed, will help to ensure both you and your date have a good time.

To have a good first date, you must do something that is fun. Does your date hate crowded locations and loud music? If so, she may not like a bar or a concert. So, opt for something else. If you just met her, you may be unaware of her likes and dislikes. If that is the case, ask. Or, offer a suggestion, but give her the option of changing it.

Offer to pick her up for the date. The only exception to this would be if you met a woman online. She may feel uncomfortable providing you with her home address, so dont pressure her. Meet her at the movie theater, bar, or restaurant. But, if you already know where your date lives, always offer to pick her up.

Arrive on time. When it comes to first dates, being late is unacceptable. It should not happen. If you want to wow and impress a girl, be on time. A late arriver implies that the date may not be important. A woman doesnt want to feel like she is second best. Start getting dressed and leave early to avoid being late.

Be presentable. Whether you are meeting this woman for the first time or if you already know her, she will give you the once look over. She is doing this to see how presentable you are. You do not want to over-dress, but never under-dress. Always show up for a date with a nice hairstyle and clean clothes.

Ask questions, but not too many. First dates are designed to get to know the other person. To do so, you need to ask questions. Good conversation topics include work, family, and pets. When asking questions, dont get too personal. With a high rate of divorce in the country, you may want to ask your date about her siblings, but not her parents. Also, dont sound like you are interviewing her. Incorporate questions naturally into the conversation, not one right after another.

Dont press your views on her. It is common for conversation awkwardness on a first date. This is when neither of you know what to say. If you reach this point, you may turn to news stories. What is happening in the world will lead to conversation, but it can take a bad turn. Does your date not agree with you on politics, crime, and so forth? If so, that is fine, but dont press your views on her or turn your first date into a debate. This is one of the fastest ways to ruin a good time.

Always listen to your date. Since first dates are awkward and you are likely nervous, your mind may slip away. This is okay, but be on your toes. Always listen to what your date has to say. Dont ask the same questions again. If you dont listen to your woman on the first date, she will assume the entire relationship will be like that. Remember, your goal is to score a second date, not leave her unimpressed.

Dont be afraid of a change of scenery. Is the movie boring or the restaurant too full? Dont assume you have to stay. Ask your date if she would like to leave and go elsewhere. Let her suggest the new destination. If you like the woman, but arent have a good time, change the scenery.

Most importantly, ask her to do it again. Whether the date was fun or not, if you like the woman, ask her out again. This is the perfect way to end a good first date.

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How to Handle a First Date Rejection

January 16th, 2010 · First Date

Did you finally workup the courage to ask a girl on a date? If so, good for you! This is truly a step in the right direction. The first step in jumping into the dating scene is asking. But, what if you received a no? What does it mean? Continue reading on to find out and for tips on how to handle a first date rejection.

The Scenario: You like a girl from school. You asked her join you for a movie, but you were turned down. What do you do?

It is important gauge the no answer. Does she outright say no? Does she say she is busy this weekend, but maybe the next? If the girl says maybe next time, do not give up. There is still hope for you. On the other hand, if she outright says no, you may feel like running away in embarrassment, but dont do it. Casually say Ill let you know if it is good.

The Scenario: You asked a woman from work to join you for dinner, but she said no. What do you do?

Once again, you should gauge her answer. Did she outright say no? Did she say she didnt like seafood? If you get a no because the woman doesnt like your choice in restaurants, offer another suggestion. In fact, say Im not really a picky eater. If you would like, you could pick the restaurant. Wait and see what she has to say. If she says yes, good. If she still says no, it is time to move on.

The Scenario: You asked a girl from school to join you at the beach, but she said no. What do you do?

As always, you should gauge the answer no. Also, look at her body language and consider her tone. Is she disappointed or is she truly not interested. A girl who shows disappointment may be interested in you, but she may not like your suggestion of an afternoon at the beach. In terms of teens, know that most girls are fearful about their body. The may fear you seeing them in a bathing suit. If you get that type of vibe, suggest something else, like a movie.

The Scenario: You asked a woman at the office to join you for drinks after work. She said no. Now what?

When it comes to workplace relationships, there are a number of factors to take into consideration. A coworker may be interested in you, but she may fear workplace gossip or worry about her job. Never pressure a coworker into a date, but dont be afraid. Ask for a date in private and suggest a bar away from work, so you wont run into other coworkers.

Plans should also be taken into consideration. Does your coworker say I would love to, but I have other plans. This means you still have hope. It is easy to ask a coworker out for drinks or a dinner after a day of long work, but she may have other plans. On Tuesday, suggest meeting after work on Friday.

As highlighted above, you may receive a no to a first date offer in many scenarios. Before giving up all hope, consider her reaction. There may still be hope for you. If not, brush yourself off and move on. It is a tacky, age-old saying, but there are other fish in the sea.

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How to Flirt with a Girl

January 14th, 2010 · Dating

Whether you are an adult or a high school student, you may fear rejection. After all, no one wants to ask a girl on a date only to hear no. Of course, you shouldnt let rejection stop you from approaching a woman, but if it is a fear of yours flirt first. By flirting with another girl or woman, you are able to see if she is interested in you before you take the plunge and ask for a date.

Unfortunately, when it comes to flirting, many guys dont know where to start. Females are the ones that have flirting mastered. So, what should you do?

Separate yourself from the group. If you are at a high school sporting event or a bar, chances are you are with a group of friends. Yes, it is possible to flirt when in a group, but your success rate improves when you separate yourself from the crowd. Whether you head to another part of the establishment alone or make contact with the girl right away, do it!

Smile. If you want to meet someone and possibly score a first date, you need to smile. It doesnt matter what your mood is, smile. Did you have a bad day at work? Did you get a bad grade at school? It does not matter, still smile. Even if that smile is fake, it helps you meet girls. Whether you flirt with someone up close or from afar, a smile is important. Plus, a smile shows you are friendly, which will increase your chances of a girl flirting with you instead.

Make eye contact. Eye contact is a great way to get the flirting started. When you enter a room, scan the crowd to see who is present. Chances are you will automatically lock eyes with a girl in the room. Dont freak out if she isnt one who interests you. Locking eyes with a stranger is common, but up-close is when it really matters. Whether you keep checking a girl out or approach her for a conversation, make eye contact. This shows you are interested in her. You can wait for her to make the next move or jump right in yourself.

Say hi. This is where many guys make a mistake. If a woman interests you, approach her and say hi. Follow that greeting with a quick general question, such as are you enjoying yourself? The mistake that many guys make is following hi with a cheesy pickup line. Yes, using a pickup line is a great way to flirt with a girl, but many pickup lines are lame and borderline offensive.

Dont panic. When flirting with the opposite sex, it is common for awkward moments to occur. You are likely to tell a bad joke, she may say something mildly offensive, or there may be pauses in the conversation. If so, dont panic. Just continue the conversation or just laugh it off.

End the flirting on your terms. Whether you arent interested after talking to her or if you are struggling for something to say, end the flirting on your terms. Do so by saying you have to get going or get back to your friends. Before you leave, give her your phone number. This puts the ball in her court and takes the pressure off you. If she is interested in a date, she will call.

Be nice to those who flirt with you. Whether you are at a high school sports game or a bar, someone in the crowd should find you interesting. This girl may approach you. As previously stated, many girls have flirting mastered. What if you were interested in someone else? Dont blow her off. Share a dance, have a quick conversation, or let her buy you a drink. Dont waste too much time, as you want to flirt with the girl you like, but that girl may be watching you. Women eye men in public settings; make sure she sees you being nice to others.

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How to Ask for a Date without Pressuring Her

January 14th, 2010 · Ask a Girl on a Date

Do you want to ask a girl or a woman on a date? The best thing to do is ask. Just jump right in and do. With that said, you may want to think about the approach. If you are not careful, you may unintentionally pressure her into saying yes. Of course, you want to hear yes, but you want to receive a true yes, not a pressured yes.

So, how you can ask for a date without pressuring the woman?

Flirt. Flirting is one of the best ways to test the waters. If you are a public establishment, such as a bar, sporting event, or concert, you want to see if the girl is interested in you. Do this before taking the plunge. Flirting is the way to go because you can gauge her reaction. Does she seem interested? Does she flirt back? Is she trying to get away from you?

When it comes to flirting, you have many different options. Most importantly, put a smile on your face. Flirting will fall flat without a smile. Plus, a friendly smile will make it easier for women to approach you. Also, make eye contact. Whether you approach her for a conversation or flirt from afar, try to lock eyes. If you are with a group of friends, separate yourself from the crowd. Go start a conversation with her or wait until she approaches you.

Strike up a conversation. If you do not have a fear of approaching women, skip the flirting and start with a conversation. Walk up and say you noticed her from across the room. Introduce yourself and she should do the same. When having a casual conversation with a girl you just met, start out slow. Ask if she is having fun. If listening to a band at a bar, ask what type of music she likes, and so forth. If she is interested, the conversation will take off on its own.

Once you have made contact with a woman you just met and are still interested, it is time to ask about a date. When doing so, casually work it into the conversation. Wait for the perfect opportunity. Did the conversation turn towards favorite movies or music? If so, ask her to attend a concert with you or dinner and a movie. By starting a conversation first, you lessen the nervousness and awkwardness that is often associated with asking a stranger for a date.

If you want to ask a woman on a date that you know, like someone from school or work, it may be just as hard. If you see this woman on a daily basis, you may fear rejection and what happens because of it. Dont let this stop you, but take the roundabout approach. Instead of outright asking for a date, dont use the word. Instead, mention a movie you want to see or a new restaurant you want to try. Casually ask if she would like to join you.

To keep the pressure off a woman, know that no means no. If you receive a first date rejection, gauge her reaction. Does she truly seem disappointed that she cant attend because she has other plans? If so, give her your phone number and ask her to call when she has time. On the other hand, if she got no out of her mouth in record time, move on. If you keep on asking or apply pressure, she may give in just to stop you from bugging her. Yes, you did accomplish your goal of getting a date, but you did it the wrong way.

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How to Ask a Girl to the Movies

January 13th, 2010 · Ask a Girl on a Date

Do you want to ask a girl on a first date? If so, the perfect destination is the movie theater. Although you wont be able to talk much during the movie, you will have that movie to talk about at dinner. In a way, dinner and a movie tends to eliminate some of that common first date awkwardness.

So, you have decided that you want to ask a girl to the movies, but how are you going to ask? If you have not a clue, continue reading on for a few good suggestions.

It is easier to ask a girl that you already know on a date. For example, do you want to ask a girl at school or someone at the office? If so, you already know a little bit about them. So, start a casual conversation first. Say hi and ask them how their weekend was. Then, ask about the movies. By starting a conversation first, it will eliminate some of your nervousness. For that reason, get a casual conversation started before you pop the question.

After you have started a casual conversation with the girl you want to ask to the movies, ask. You can outright ask. Say something like There are a lot of good movies playing at the theater this weekend. Would you like to go? Unless this is a group outing, the girl will assume it is a date. So, you dont even have to mention the word date. This may also help to calm your nerves. After all, it is just dinner and a movie.

It is easier to ask a girl that you already know to a movie and dinner, but dont let that stop you. Do you see someone at a sporting event or a bar who you think is attractive? If so, introduce yourself and ask if she would be interested watching a movie with you.

The best way to ask a girl to the movies is to just ask, do it outright. However, that may be easier said than done. If you really like the girl or woman, you may be a bit nervous. You should never let fear of rejection hold you down. If you want to limit your risks, mention a movie playing at the theater. Say It looks like a good movie doesnt it? If she answers yes, ask her if she would like to go with you.

Taking the roundabout approach, by fishing to see if she is interested in a movie showing, is okay, but be cautious with your approach. I want to see a movie this weekend, but I dont want to go alone, would you like to go too? That sounds like a nice casual way to ask a girl to a movie, but it may backfire. Girls wants to believe guys are interested in them. With this line, you are essentially saying I dont want to go alone, so how about you go with me instead? Avoid this approach at all costs.

As previously stated, the best first date combination is movie and then dinner. If you are nervous about asking a girl on a date, it may be best to ask about the movie first. When you later finalize your plans, sneak in dinner. Do this once your confidence level has already been built up with a yes answer.

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How to Ask a Girl Out by Email

January 11th, 2010 · Ask a Girl on a Date, Ask a Girl Out by Email

When it comes to asking a girl on a date, it is common to be nervous, excited, and fearful. Whether you are 17 or 37, it may be hard for you to ask a girl out in person. For that reason, you may turn to email. If so, please continue reading for a few helpful tips to ensure your delivery is perfect.

Before sharing a few tips on how to ask a girl out by email, it is important to know this is not the preferred method of asking for a date. Email is convenient, but it is also impersonal. If you can, you should ask a girl on a date in person. It will significantly increase your chances of getting a yes. But, if that is out of the question, you need to perfect your delivery of the question do you want to go on a date?

Check your email settings. Many email programs, such as Hotmail and Yahoo, allow you to create a display name for yourself. This name will appear next to your email message, so make sure it is appropriate and clearly states who you are. When possible, do not use nicknames, but your real name, even if it is just your first.

Do not use a work email. Although some employers allow their employees to use work emails for personal use, refrain from doing so. If you want to make contact with a girl you like, send a message from your own personal email account. If you do not have one, you can get a free account through Hotmail, Yahoo, or Gmail. Yes, the girl you are asking on a date may be impressed that your email signature claims you are a manager or executive, but she may also worry about who else has access to your work email, like a boss.

Do more than just say would you like to go on a date with me? As previously stated, emails are impersonal. There are steps you can take to make them more personal. Instead of just asking for a date, say hello. Ask how they are doing, and so forth. You dont have to write a long letter, but have at least four sentences in your email.

Address your recipient by name. When writing a personal email, very few people start their email with hi and the recipients name anymore. You want to do so. For example, start your email saying Hi Michelle. Once again, this makes an email a bit more personal.

Sign your email with your name. As with addressing recipients by name, many also dont end a letter with their name. You should do so. This is important if your email display name is only your first name or a nickname. Is your name Dave? If so, it is a common name. Make sure the girl you are asking on a date knows who you are and doesnt have the opportunity to confuse you with someone else.

Avoid using internet acronyms or shorthand. If you text message, use instant messaging programs, and send a lot of emails, you may have mastered the process of using internet acronyms, like LOL, BRB, and so forth. This is cool, but leave them for messages with friends. Although popular with internet use, not everyone is familiar with them. When asking a girl on a date by way of email, actually type out all words. It will only take a few extra seconds, but it is worth it.

As previously stated, you should ask a girl for a date in person, as opposed to by email. This is very important if you do not know the girl in question. Did you just get her email or did a friend share it with you? If so, it will be awkward for all involved. To get started, start emailing the girl you like back and forth with casual conversations and then ask for a date. If you are acquaintances with the girl in question or if she is already in your email address book, go right ahead and ask.

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